Disagreements over one or other parenting areas like bedtime, discipline or feeding are inevitable, but destructive consequences can be easily avoided. To resolve disputes before  any of you becomes a victim, try these approaches:

 Decide how disagreements will be handled before they come up. Then stick to your conflict-resolution plan.

Arguing about your children in front of them can be confusing, upsetting and guilt provoking. Instead resolve such conflicts behind closed doors.

Assign to yourselves the things you feel most strongly about. If you care about manners, make rules related to how you should behave at the table; and if your spouse cares about diet and health, so the responsibility for deciding what goes on the table is in her court.

Sometimes the parent who spends the most time with children knows what's best for them and so they could be objective. Listen to each other's opinions with open minds - you may have more to learn than you think. And your child will also learn something valuable too;  that you respect each other's opinions.

However you decide to settle child-care issues between you, be sure that the rules that are spelled out to your child are consistent for you both too. If you insist, they should wash their hands before eating and your spouse doesn't; or if your spouse allows climbing on the furniture and you don't, they will feel confused. Even worse, they may believe that they can't do anything right and give up trying. So don't switch back and forth on parental policies depending on who's in charge at the moment.

Finally, keep in mind that there are more ways to handle the most parenting issues. And the way both of you respond to each other, show respect for each other and compromise with each other plays a very important role in your children's life too.